Changing Lanes: Navigating Life’s Detours, Disruptions, and Disappointments to find Hope

You get up as usual to start your day. You thank God for a new day; you brush your teeth, wash your face, and fix breakfast for yourself and your family. Then you get the kids off to school and proceed to work. This is basically your morning routine.

As you’re driving to work, for some unknown reason, someone decides to cut in front of you without signaling. You hit the brakes and spill your coffee—and crash! You’re hit from behind. In the blink of an eye, your life just took a detour. Now you have to work your way out of traffic. You call the police to report the accident, and while you’re waiting you exchange information with the driver who hit you. You call your job to let them know that you probably won’t be in, and then you call for someone to pick you up.

Your whole day has been altered by a disruption; you’re taking a detour around the route you normally take. As you proceed with your day, you start experiencing neck and back pain. You know your trip to the emergency room will be dreadful and the wait will be long. When you are finally seen by the doctor, your day is half over. Then you receive the news that you have a light case of whiplash, but it’s nothing serious: and you have tension in your back. Now you really understand how life can be disrupted by unexpected things.

Normally, you would be able to pick up your children from school, but because of this detour your life has taken, you have to make other arrangements. The evening is not so bad, or so it seems until the phone rings and the voice on the other end is nowhere near as jolly as usual. The voice says, “Momma just suffered a stroke and has been taken to the hospital—it doesn’t look good.”

Disgust, hurt, and anger start to set in. Your life has just taken still another detour; you have been disrupted for the second time in one day. By the time you get to the hospital, she’s gone. Momma has slipped away. Your emotions are all stirred up and you cry out: “Why, God? Why Now?” It’s no longer your life that has taken a detour; the lives of your whole family have been disrupted as well.

Because of Momma’s death, what has gone from possibly being away from work for a day or two has now been extended to at least two weeks. At any time, our lives can be altered by a detour, and once you go down that lane, you don’t know what’s to come on the road ahead. You just have to keep going and find out because there’s no going back. When you look back, the sign says, “Road closed.”

In order for us to grow and mature in Christ, we will encounter detours and disruptions because God wants us to lean on Him for understanding. We need not depend solely on ourselves. Things will happen that will bring disappointment to our lives but, if we seek God for the answers, in time we will understand why particular incidents happen to us and why they happen at inopportune times. When you are confused and everything seems out of order, find a way to be still. Jesus says in John 14:27: “Peace, I leave with you, my peace I give unto you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.” His peace keeps us from worry because it leads us straight to him.

In Changing Lanes, you will get to know me and a few others who have experienced some of life’s, detours, disruptions, and disappointments. We have all made it through. It is my hope and prayer that at least one of my chapters will help you with your own detours, disruptions, and disappointments in life. I hope that my writing will help you realize that, whatever befalls you, God will raise you up and walk with you side by side.

Reading Changing Lanes may bring back memories of long forgotten things that were never forgiven and that may be a root cause for a current stumbling block in your life.


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It is Mary's hope that you will recognize the detours, disruptions, and disappointments in your life and find your way back to the lane God has destined you to be in.